conflict is not abuse, by sarah schulman
Tuesday, February 28th, 2017
…as was learned by the AIDS crisis, significant attitudinal change, while inhabited by many, is propelled by a critical mass, a small diverse collection of individuals with focused intent and effective action who rise to the occasion to literally change our minds.
Perpetrators increasingly are the ones to call the police, threaten legal action, send lawyer letters, or threaten or seek restraining orders as part and parcel of their agenda of blame and unilateral control.
Good groups help their family, friends, and community members recognize and dissipate anxiety rather than joining them in acting out cruelly against others.